Hiya! Vivaciousangel, there is only one piece of advice I am qualified to give – after all I am 23 and married and never having dated anyone else..*sigh* but here goes.. be yourself.
Dont think there is a way things work.. there isnt. Thats a falacy. Dont think that people (men) wont like you for who you are. You ARE a mother – and thats part of that.. you dont need to have a key to any other thing.. just be you.
The second is what got me married! Trust in God.
Allow Him to be in control of this area.
None of this is easy..