I guess my opinion is, especially from not reacting on the instinct I had at the time, is that if you feel your marriage is being threatened you have every right to say so. There are reasons we have these feelings, unless it is extreme jealousy and possessiveness. It seems your husband is trying and the women who had his attention are not readily willing to let it go. Maybe he needs to be more attentive to you during a time they are around so they can see that your marriage is solid. I know it is difficult for a woman alone if she has lost her spouse or vice versa and they miss the companionship of another. If you have the option of changing cell groups that may also help the matter. Will be praying. God bless.