This subjest is very tender to my heart for one I was married to an alcoholic, for thirteen years, and at that time I too drank, even if it was only in moderation because like most of those who have posted here I didn’t at the time see anything wrong with doing it in modrration, but not to the point that my ex-husband drank where it destroyed our marriage, left scares on me and my three childern that it has taken the mighty hand of the Lord our God to wipe away, and one of my childern took after his father, even though i prayed for God not to allow that to happen, it hppened, but all praises and glory to his most holy name, I give him praise that after 25 years, he heard this mother’s cry and is delivering my son from alcohol, just like he has done for me.
I mmust say that I am in total agreement with what thecountrydoc has posted, and i applaud him for his in depth study I can see he has studied to show him self approved.
I was so messed up from the results and the affects that my exs drinking had on my life, till while i was in school studying taking some medical cources, when we began to study the effects of alcohol on the person that drinks and their families, my whole body would tence up , as we studied i would cringe because i would begin to relieve the torment that my childern and i had to live through. Most of you have seen the movie, ” the burning bed” well i am here to tell you when it got to the part where the childern and the mother were sitting around the table trying to eat, and the husband came in and started to beat them, that was me and m childern, only he did not beat me physcially, no his whippings were mental abuse of both me and my childern, my daughter used to sit andf pull out the edges of her hair, my oldest son, his eye lashes. I was so very gald the day that the Lord enabled me to break away from this marriage, and people tried to get me to go back to him for the childerns sake, when that was the very reason it was so imperative for me to leave.
I totally believe that DRINKING IS A SIN! because I have a first hand knowledge and the pain of it’s experience of what this sin, can do to you, but for the grace and mercy of the Lord our God, who has delivered us, including my exhusband from alcohol, but he still suffers from the effects that it took on him.
His new wife gets to see everyday the man that i only got to see every once in a while, but i am thankful that he has a new life now, free of alcohol, everytime I see him, I pray to God to allow me to see him as he is now, and for my childern to begin to see him that way now as well. it’s hard to do, when you have seen him for most all of his adult life as an alcoholic, but we are getting there, because his new wife wants us all to be included in their life, even thouhg i would rather not be included at all, but I do it so that she won’t think i’m trying to be funny. and I pray that she will never know the reasons why i don’t want to be.
I tell you that ANYTHING THAT CAUSE YOU TO HAVE THIS KIND OF PAIN, AND TO SUFFER TO THIS POINT, IS A SIN! AND SOME HAVE SUFFERED EVEN GREATER PAIN AND LOOSE i THANK GOD THAT WE ARE STILL ALIVE AND IN OUR RIGHT MINDS TO BE ABLE TO HELP SOMEBODY ELSE STAY AWAY FROM IT.
God bless you all!