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Christian Friendship Tips & Advice

1. Friends are Necessary!
Friends are to emotional health what food is to the body. When we feel we have no one who understands or cares for us, we are prone to withdraw into loneliness and depression. When you find yourself withdrawing from others, thatīs a sure sign you need to reach out for some much needed "friendship therapy!"

Proverbs 27:9, "Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a manīs friend by hearty counsel."
2. Friends are Burden Bearers
If you donīt have at least one friend you can share your deepest sorrow with, you need to cultivate a new friend immediately. Sharing your burdens will make them lighter. The Native American Indians called a friend "one-who-carries-my-sorrows-on-his-back." (By the way, is there someone who needs to share a sorrow with you? Be a friend and call them today!)

"Bear ye one anotherīs burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2
3. Friends Are For Sharing!
No matter what emotion we are having, good or bad, we want and need a friend to share it with. Without a friend, we are like an ember that has grown apart and cold. A glowing ember will ignite a cold one placed beside it, but alone it dies. When we lose a friend, we die a little. If you have a friendship that needs to be rekindled, "stir up the coals" and get it glowing again.

"...if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?" Eccles. 4:11
4. With a Friend Like This...
Little Tommy knew the value of friendship, even one less than perfect. When he asked to go out and play with Jimmy, his daddy answered, "Why, you donīt even like Jimmy very much." After thinking a moment, Tommy replied, "Then, can I go out and fight with him?"

"Thine own friend, and thy fatherīs friend, forsake not...better is a neighbour that is near than a brother far off." Proverbs 27:10
5. Emotional Support
At any given time, someone you know is going through a struggle. We all need friends to help us up when weīre down. Who could use your encouragement right now? A call from you may be all they need to keep going. Call them -- remember, tomorrow you may need that call!

"Two are better than one...For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." Eccles. 4:9-10
6. Support During a Crisis
A friend is the one who comes when everyone else has gone, the one to whom we can say, "I canīt take this alone, but with you, Iīll get through." David in anguish cried out to his Best Friend, "Give ear to my prayer, O God; and hide not thyself from my supplication … My heart is sore pained within me: and the terrors of death are fallen upon me." (Ps. 55:1,4) But by the end of the psalm, David had found the faith and strength heīd asked for. (vs. 22, 23b) Our greatest Friend will be there when all others have forsaken us. God is "a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24
7. Support in Temptation
Adults face peer pressure, too, and there is strength in numbers.. Itīs easier to resist temptation if you can say, "WE wonīt do that." Choose friends who will stand with you rather than those that would pull you down to a lower level. George Washington said, "Associate with men of good quality, if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be alone than in bad company."

"Two are better than one...and if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken." Eccles. 4:9a, 12
8. Be Friendly
If you want a friend, you have to be friendly. Itīs that simple! If you donīt have any friends, or feel you donīt, itīs time to find a new friend or renew an old friendship. You do that by being friendly. Donīt sit around waiting for one to show up on your doorstep like an abandoned puppy! Dale Carnegie said, "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in more people, than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

Proverbs 18:24, "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly."
9. Go Away From Yourself
Most of us selfishly want friends for what they can do for us, but we should want friends just as much for what we can do for them. Here is the true secret to finding a friend, from the little book "Apples of Gold":

I went out to find a friend, And could not find one there. I went out to be a friend, And friends were everywhere!

Luke 6:31, "And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise."
10. Fill Anotherīs Need
When you find someone with a need and fill it, youīve become a valuable friend. You can be sure the man beaten by thieves in the Parable of the Good Samaritan became the Samaritanīs loyal friend for life. Maybe your own special friend is waiting for you just around the corner. Why not peep around and see whoīs there?

Luke 10:33-34, "But a certain Samaritan...had compassion...and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him."
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