http://www.praize.com/forums/ en-us no-reply@praize.com Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:13:47 GMT Gossamer Forum by Gossamer Threads, Inc. http://www.rssboard.org/rss-specification http://www.praize.com/forum/icons/gforum-logo.png http://www.praize.com/forums/ 50 50 http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/Any_advice%3F_P81017/?page=unread#81017 Hello, Im fairly new here, but I was wondering if it would be possible to get prayers for my family. Recently, we returned from a family vacation, and since then, my dads anger has really, taken off. The night we came home, he hit my mom twice, my sister ran off, and my friend spent the entire ride home, crying and shaking beside me. For whatever reason, in situations like those, I always find myself struggling to hold things together. Since then, things have went down hill. A few years ago, my dad went through something similar to this. His anger would just get out of control, and he would flip out at anything and everything. You never knew what would set him off…he had violent outburst, and I’m afraid he’s back at it again. When I was younger, he would tell my mom, constantly, that when I turned 18, he would leave. I’m 18...and he’s began talk of leaving. You never know when he’s serious, or joking. The night we returned from our trip, I walked my friend to his house, and turned to see my dad standing outside of the car, “Laughing” his “Laugh” that says something happened. I was walking with my mom, later that night and she was talking about why he doesn’t act “Right”. She was quoting some Bible verses, about what fathers should and should not do, wondering why he was acting the way he was…and it hit me. “How can he act, Biblical, if he’s missing Christ?” The simple thought, drove me to tears. I don’t believe my dad is saved. I say that loosely, because I cant be for sure. He’s an elder at our church, and he goes through all the “Right” moves. He attends church (sometimes), and everyone constantly comments on what a good person he is… Since I realized that my dad, might not actually be saved…I’ve really had a hard time with things. As an added “Bonus” my sister (who is older, and has always been the one person I can count on to tell me the truth, and to know what she says is truth) recently has been going through a…”Down time” saying that the place we live is “God forsaken” and that God has now, left us. In my heart, I know that God hasn’t left us, but sometimes, I wonder…because sometimes, it feels like I am all alone, even though I know I’m not. Its been a rough weekend, and a rough start to the week. Our pastor is coming by tomorrow, and during a “Fight” my mom informed my dad of this. He stormed out the door saying he was “Gone for good”. Things can only go one way or another…I guess the reason I’m writing this now, is I’m basically out of options. No one in this town, knows how my dad can really be. I haven’t told anyone…because I’ve told myself over and over that things WILL get better, they have to. I’ve prayed, that God would change my dad…but I guess its not His will right yet. I guess, I was just wondering if anyone else has been in a situation like this? Or if someone would mind praying that things would work out, of that we would know what to do. There has been lots of talk about divorce, but that, is another story in itself, and an option, that really….scares me more than anything. I’ve debated wither or not to say anything, but I’m pretty much out of options. Anyways, prayers would be appreciated. ~CJ 0 Feb 3, 2009, 5:58 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/teenagers_help_P67335/?page=unread#67335 I am a single mother of a 16 year old girl I would like any advice in getting along, understanding her, I want to be her frind not enemy, we are having some problems, she to me seems argumentive, and has a temper and blames me for making her mad there are a few other things i suppose typical to tenages, so any advice on how to make a smoother runing and understanding would help, any advice.......please 0 May 5, 2006, 2:14 AM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/My_sister!_P2524/?page=unread#2524 I have the same problim like Taylor, but its my sister, not my brother, my brother is a sweetie, but my little sister is no sweetie! I feel like I'm the youngest, she just turned 11, & I'm almost 14. She tells me that I'm being childish alot, & she makes me feel bad all the time. She hits, kicks & even punches me alot. My mom never believes me when I tell her what happens. I barely ever hit her, but now I just quit & take it. But how can I tell her to stop, she'll go crying to me mom like a baby, & tells all these lies, that get me into trouble. She acts more like a teenager then I do, talks on the phone ALLL day, I never get the phone barely.& I really hate this. any advice?? thanks. 0 Mar 29, 2006, 4:14 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/I_dont_have_a_Parent_with_me_%2C_P58543/?page=unread#58543 HELLO CHRISTIN FRIENDS , I AM I HAVE NO PARENTS NOW SO I DONT KNOW HOW LIVING WITH YOUR PARENTS LOOK LIKE BUT I THINK LIVING WITH JESUS IS THE MOST OF MY LIFE, I WILL LIKE YOU ALL TO PLEASE PRAY FOR ME SO THAT I CAN GET IN CONTACT WITH MY MOTHER BACK HOME. WE BOTH MISSING FOR M EACH OTHER DURING THE WARING OUR COUNTRY, AND I AM NOW IN GHANA LIVING AS A REFUGEE, GOD BLESS YOU ALL. 0 Oct 15, 2005, 9:38 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/How_do_2_people_who_are_alike_get_along%3F_P51048/?page=unread#51048 Here is the problem, my mom and i are exactly alike, we don't get along very well and we give my sis a headache. What can i do to make the relationship with my mom more peaceful than "war"like? How do two people who are alike get along? 0 May 29, 2005, 12:33 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/Children_Deserve_to_Be_Wanted_and_Loved!_P32671/?page=unread#32671 Children Deserve to Be Wanted and Loved! "GIVE a little love to a child, and you get a great deal back." So wrote the 19th-century English writer and critic John Ruskin. Probably most parents will agree that it pays to love one's children, not only because of the love received in return but, more important, because of the positive effect this love will have on them. The book Love and Its Place in Nature observed, for example, that without love "children tend to die." And Ashley Montagu, noted British-born anthropologist, went so far as to say: "The child who has not been loved is biochemically, physiologically, and psychologically very different from the one who has been loved. The former even grows differently from the latter." The Toronto Star reported on a study that reached similar conclusions. It said: "Children raised without being regularly hugged, caressed or stroked . . . have abnormally high levels of stress hormones." Indeed, physical neglect during infancy "can have serious long-range effects on learning and memory." These findings emphasize the need for the physical presence of parents. Otherwise, how can strong ties develop between parent and child? But sorry to say, even in affluent parts of the world, the tendency now is to try to supply a child's needs apart from his or her parents. Children are sent away to school, sent away to Sunday school, sent away to work, sent away to summer camp, and given money and sent away to places of recreation. Thrust out of the family nucleus, circling in orbit at a distance, as it were, millions of children naturally come to feel—if only subconsciously—neglected, unwanted, and unloved, surrounded by a hostile world of grown-ups. Such a prevailing feeling among children may be one reason why there are an estimated 3,000 street children in Berlin. Typical is young Micha, who said: "No one wanted me anymore." A nine-year-old German boy similarly complained: "I would rather be our dog." 0 Jul 1, 2004, 7:51 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/unsaved_P27324/?page=unread#27324 My mom is a non-Christian. She's totally cool with my being a Christian. I'm glad I didn't have one of those parents that are "Get-out-of-my-house" types when you become a believer. The thing with my mom is... she trusts me, she knows Jesus lives, but she won't accept it yet. But she's searching. She's searching now. I talked with her today, and she asked me how she can believe, what she needs to do. I didn't really know how to answer her, and I don't know how to pray in Chinese, so I emailed her pastor and I asked for his help. She's talking to me right now about people who try to evangelize. No one's been able to move her. I guess it's a prayer request in its own right. I'll talk to y'all later! To God be all the glory, honor, and praize, Mickey Gao 0 Mar 28, 2004, 9:11 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/what's_going_on%3F%3F%3F%3F%3F_P18108/?page=unread#18108 OK, this may seem wierd, but I have been having strange feelings about being adopted. Sometimes I get the feeling like they're not my parents, but there's nothing they have said or done to make me think that way. I have no clue. Is it Satan lying to me? Or is it true? I don't know what to think anymore. Some days I feel like everythings all right. Then others I don't feel like I belong. I don't want what I'm thinking to be true, I love my family. They have talked about it, and I have seen pictures, but is that really me in there when she was pregnant. They say mom had a miscarrage, but I don't remember it. Help please. 0 Oct 19, 2003, 6:43 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/Question_for_the_teens_here!!_P16941/?page=unread#16941 As a parent of a 13 year old daughter I thought I might get some insight from the teenagers on this board. I am not real sure how my daughter feels about Jesus Christ. I have tried to talk to her about it and I am trying to get her more involved in the youth group at our church. She doesn't seem to want to open up to me on this subject and is very reserved with the kids at the church. I know I can't force her to believe but I am trying to at least put her in situations that make it easy for her to learn more about God and the Bible. I did not take her to church as a young child so maybe she feels like she doesn't know as much as the other kids and is a little embarrassed. It seems like the friends that she does have and seems to graviate towards are a little more on the wild side and have no interest in Church or religion. So anyways, any of you teenagers that might have some good advice for a frustrated parent, I am listening to you. My daughter is a freshman in high school and there are a lot of changes in her life right now. 0 Sep 23, 2003, 6:42 AM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/mi_mates_parents_P16453/?page=unread#16453 hey a close frind of mines has really strange parents, he realyy doesnt like his mum says shes to controlling and he trys to get acceptance from his dad but doesnt get it very often. the thing is that i have grown up in a real strong christian family and mi parents council young ppl so i no quite a lot about counciling and stuff and i can c that his dad has the problim his dad doesnt show the wife any love and so mi frind being the only other guy in the family has his mum trying to gain his love and he hates it. but i cant tell him this becoz he thinks his dad is the best and really looks up to him, i have given hints but i dnt think hes getin them. i have already found out that i cant council him becoz of the fact that i no him to well i get to emotionally involved. his family is christian aswell but wont go and get healing both me and mi mum are trying to convince them to go and get it. mi mum this sunday is going to be leading the healing night at out church and i really think that mi mates parents should go especially the father coz once he get healed the mother wil come into line and then so will the children but i dont think they will go and even if they do the mother will go het healing but the father wont. i really want mi mate to have a happy family just for once. he has been depressed for a few years and really so have i but i am pretty much over it thanx to the help of him but he seems to no be getting over as fast as i am in facti think he hasnt really started to get over the depression yet and i think that its becoz of his family life. can u all pray for him and his family that they all get healed. thanx 0 Sep 13, 2003, 2:59 AM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/I'm_not_close_with_my_parents..........._P90680/?page=unread#90680 Is it wrong of me not to feel close to either one of my parents cause for some reason I feel bad that I'm not close with them. Can someone tell me if it's bad that I'm not close with either one of my parents 0 Jun 8, 2003, 7:09 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/Grateful_P108960/?page=unread#108960 Hi! If you remember my post earlier about my dad. Well your encouragement worked. Thanks! It was hard to tell him my feeling, especially when he doesn't know why I feel that way. I told him though, and now we're both working on it. So thanks a lot. You're sister in Christ 0 May 14, 2003, 6:05 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/Confused_P108031/?page=unread#108031 Hi, My dad is the director of a school for teens. He understands them and can help them, but he doesn't know that I need him a lot and he has a hard time showing me love or making any effort to understand me. My mother has tried to talk to him and tell him that it bothers my sisters and I, but he seems to think that since we are pretty happy and we're talking to him that everything ok. All I want is for my dad to come to me and ask me how my day went or express his love, or even hug me. My mom tells me to express myself, but I don't think I can tell my dad. It's really hard on me. I've been praying for my dad to show his love for many years and it's not working, and I'm scared to tell him my feelings because I'm afraid he won't take me seriously. If you want to talk, my main email is jarabangel88@yahoo.com and my screen name for AOL is awesomeyellow88 PS If you find it in your heart, please pray for my situation and that I'll let God take control-Charisa 0 Apr 22, 2003, 1:47 PM http://www.praize.com/forums/People_C21/Youth_C55/Your_Parents__F112/I_Don't_Know_P85159/?page=unread#85159 I dont dont know my dad loves Jesus a lot, just I loved him before my dad and I feel that I don't want my dad to know that I do because he wants me to and then it would be like i am following in his foot steps witch I don't want to do. I dont want to be like my dad at all. I want to be my own self. 0 Jan 9, 2002, 12:49 PM