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WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH?

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WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH?
I HAVE FACED DEATH IN MANY PARTS OF MY FAMILY BUT NOW THE PROGNOSIS FOR DEBORAH IS NOT GOOD DESPITE ALL THE GOOD REPORTS OF TIME PAST.
I HAVE BUILT MONTHS OF FAITH IN TIMES PAST BUT HOW DO DEAL WITH THE CONSTANT REPORTS OF DEATH FROM THE BEST SPECIALISTS IN THEIR FIELD.
I HAVE SEEN THE BEST OF CHRISTIAN BELIEVERS LAY DOWN AND DIE THROUGH THEIR OWN EFFORTS OR JUST GIVING UP BECAUSE A FUTURE ALONE WAS NOT BEARABLE+.
IS THERE A HOPE BEYOND THE NEGATIVITY OF WHAT IS RIGHT NOW?

JOSHUA 24::::: 15 SIMPLY ASKS WHOSE REPORT WILL YOU BELIEVE!! AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE WE WILL BELIEVE THE REPORT OF THE LORD!!!!
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Re: [m7thprophet] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
Oh Jim. I am sorry that Deb's battle with her cancers may be ending.

Death had come to our dearly beloved parents in both slow and not-so-slow forms. The important part of dying is Living until death finally comes. With the exception of my father-in-law, who had advanced Parkinson's and was briefly in a nursing home before he died, our other parents died at home, under our care.

My MIL literally willed herself to stay alive until our flock of chickens went out, because she knew we would be too busy to cope with her death and funeral. She told me that she kept telling herself, "You can do it, Virginia." And...she did. Not only that, but she visited with her family that was gathered that Saturday at our home, talking and smiling and remembering. And...then she indicated to me that she wanted to lie down and rest and so we sent her sister out to get something to eat. And, she laid down and started the process of dying. She was always accommodating and not wanting to hurt feelings or put anyone out. As soon as she laid down, I knew, and called her children in, but she never regained "consciousness" and she died within minutes.

What you do in the face of death is prepare for it.

You have hope, Jim. You have told me that you have hope. Deb may go on before you, but you still have hope.

It is true that men tend to give up more than women when their mates die, but if you feel that you still have much to do...then continue to do it. You have faith that Deb will be waiting for you when your time comes. You have told me that. Continue to have that faith and hope.

The terribleness of cancer is that it is never really gotten rid of and it just waits to reappear. Deb had many years after her first cancer was diagnosed and battled it back down time after time. And..you there with her, time after time.

After a while, the final diagnosis must be accepted and one must prepare for death. Which is, after all, going to come for each of us.

You have lived well together and you have loved each other and you have filled your heart and mind and soul with Deb and she with you. That will get you both by during this more difficult time to come.

You and Deb have often been in my thoughts and I send you both my love and hugs and more hugs. My friend, you know you are not alone, as you are in all our hearts forever. And..you know that you and Deb are held in your loving God's hands. You have told me this, so I know you believe it is true.

It is left for us still here to do this for those we love; carry on and do well.

With love,
Jeanne
"The Ox is slow, but the Earth is patient."
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Re: [m7thprophet] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
Hey, Jim...
Who's report will you believe???

Jeanne has written a lovely eulogy....
BUT WHO's report will you believe? It sounds to me like you have mixed emotions and that is not of God. Get out your "101 Scriptures" and read them aloud over her. NOTHING is stronger than the Word of God.
Blessings ~ Sarah
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Re: [praizeop2] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
Hi Sarah.

I did not intend my post to be a eulogy. When asked what do you do in the face of death, I replied that you prepare for it.

All that I wrote about was how I would prepare to face the death of myself or my loved one, but added in admissions to Jim and Deb's faith.

Many do not have the chance to prepare for death, but when cancer leads down a path that gets ever worse, there is a chance to prepare.

It is not a failure of faith or of love that we should prepare to face death. It is why we each know that everyday it is important to live as though death is around the corner.

And for Christians they may know that for them Death has no sting. I remember from my youth a text entitled "Death, where is thy sting?"
Is that not a comfort to Christians when the doctor's prognosis is not good? Is not the prognosis of God one that helps Christians prepare?

Fill your heart and mind and soul with your loved ones and make sure they know they are loved and will always have a place in your memories. As an atheist, this is the best I can do; to know that I did not waste precious time and to know that I lived until I died.

And...yet, of course I have wasted precious time and left things undone and words unsaid and promises unkept and apologies neglected. It is a goal, just as living your faith is a goal. We each hope we will finish all on time, but we also are pretty certain that we won't.

Everybody does the best he or she can do.

I hope this is not too strange; I am so tired right now from work.

Always, my hugs.

-Jeanne
"The Ox is slow, but the Earth is patient."
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ReMPORTANT N : [jeanne53] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
WHEN I WROTE MY POST AND POSTED IT; I INTENDED IT FOR A TESTIMONY BUT A LITTLE MORE THAN AN HOUR LATER DEB BREATHED HER LAST AND WENT HOME TO JESUS WITH A SMILE SAYING I LOVE YOU
AFTER DAYS OF PRAYER I COULDN' T UNDERSTAND WHYBUT I SAW THAT IN THAT SHE WAS HEALED TOTALLY
MY UNDERSTANDING WAS THE LEAST IN HER HEALING AND TOTAL PEACE.

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Re: [m7thprophet] ReMPORTANT N : [jeanne53] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
Jim... I am heartbroken for SO many reasons. Just know that I am sending hugs to you every minute of every day; praying that each day will be easier than the one before. You are welcome to come visit whenever the time is right. I rejoice in Deb's happiness.
Love you.
Blessings ~ Sarah
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Re: [m7thprophet] ReMPORTANT N : [jeanne53] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
Jim: Frown

What can I say? No mere words can comfort. Only the physical embrace of loved ones feeling the same pain can blunt the pain of loss. Faith can help take the sting away but even that can't repair the void left behind when someone dear has departed and will never return. But faith offers the promise of meeting again in better circumstances beyond the 'the sufferings of this present time'. Rom.8:18.

The following text is from the Apocrypha, not the Bible, but it is well meant and I hope it will be considered appropriate.

Q. If therefore the righteous have prayed for the ungodly now, when corruption has increased and unrighteousness has multiplied, why will it not be so then as well?"

He answered me and said, "This present world is not the end; the full glory does not abide in it; therefore those who were strong prayed for the weak. But the day of judgment will be the end of this age and the beginning of the immortal age to come, in which corruption has passed away, sinful indulgence has come to an end, unbelief has been cut off, and righteousness has increased and truth has appeared
". Therefore no one will then be able to have mercy on him who has been condemned in the judgment, or to harm him who is victorious." 2 Esdras 7:41-44.

My sincere condolences Jim: From Chris.
Love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Pet.4:8b.

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rdrcofe: Dec 12, 2017, 2:13 AM
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Re: [m7thprophet] ReMPORTANT N : [jeanne53] WHAT DO YOU DO IN THE FACE OF DEATH? In reply to
Jim, I am so glad that you were with Deb to the last. And I am so sorry that she has gone on before you.

That's the hardest, isn't it? When we lose a loved one who was so much a part of us and who made us much of what we are. They are gone and we are left without them. But...we still are filled with them, too.

Be easy on yourself and rest your body and mind and soul and keep all filled with Deb's love and your faith in your God to know what is best.

Be at peace, even as your beloved Deb is at peace.

Love and hugs, my dear friend.

-Jeanne
"The Ox is slow, but the Earth is patient."