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Sat, Jul 29 2017 - 06:19 PM


John 15:20 Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.

Have you noticed how easily derogatory and accusing words come out of our mouths at what others do but correction and innocence is what we claim we are doing?

The sad thing is, when we hear things we don’t like, we assume those speaking are wrong and abusive without ever once asking them what they mean or questioning them until we learn their intention.

Words slip easily from our mouths and WE THINK we are correct in our assumptions when we really don’t know the circumstances around the topic or the motivation for the outburst from the participants.

Proverbs 29:20 Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him.

While I am talking about believing in the judgements and words of others, when did we decide that news announcers only told us the truth and do not slant the news and the words to get more listeners and, thus, more company revenue?

When you hear the word ‘abuse’ or ‘aggression’, you must first find out the circumstances surrounding their use, and the honesty of the person speaking AND their ability to correctly evaluate, and announce the truth of, what did and is happening.

I have heard many people say that they were abused. Unfortunately, I have not had the opportunity to question the other participant and learn the other side of the story.

Those who hear only one side of a story and believe it without hearing the other side or knowing the trustworthiness of the person they are listening to, ARE NOT WISE and are usually NOT VERY SMART!

Judgement and righteousness are so warped and distorted in today’s world that we, as Christians, MUST KEEP AN OPEN EAR TOWARDS HEAVEN AND OUR GOD to be able to make correct judgements in, and about, people’s lives and circumstances.

A parent, wishing to correct their child, is NOT ABUSING THEM by giving them a sharp slap on the behind.

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

Proverbs 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Foolish people use words without understanding or knowledge of the truth, so WHY ARE WE BELIEVING THEM? If we believe a foolish person do we think that that makes us wise?

The second point on this topic is that all of us have sinned.

Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

I have been abused ……but I have also abused others. We all have.

When we accuse another of abusing us; are we correct and are we ready to forgive them if they admit it and repent?

When we abused another and were accused, did we repent and seek forgiveness or pass it of as a lie?

You be the judge….. because YOU ARE!

Matthew 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

When you call someone an abuser and they are not, you are a liar and will be judged as a liar.

When you falsely accuse someone something they are not, you are a liar.

When you are accused of abuse and you did it but deny it, you are a liar.

The only way to live and speak the truth, is to live and speak the truth.

What are our credentials for saying we are abused of another? Because we are ashamed? Because we did not like what they said? Because we are caught in a sin and don’t like it?



God knows but DO YOU?

Let’s not be hasty in our accusations and be gentle in our dealings with others.

Romans 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

Titus 3:2 To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.

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