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Sun, Sep 16 2012 - 05:56 PM

“There are no absolutes.” Or so they say Part III by Jane at The Elizabeth Company

Today's blog is Part Three of a Four Part Series entitled "There Are No Absolutes" addressing one of the overall mindsets of  young people (Gen Y). Part I named the five distinct "generations" and the keywords that briefly describe the prevalent mindset of each. Part II zeroed in on Gen Y in an attempt to understand and answer the original question, as stated below. Part III attempts to answer what cause and effect the Y Generation has with the generations preceding it. Feedback is welcomed.

The original question that inspired this blog is this: How do you get young people to live for Christ and how do you keep them motivated. By the end of yesterday's blog, I'm sure I've been labeled a Gen Y basher by most young people. 

Right about now, the Veterans, fellow Baby Boomers, and Gen X are probably cheering this blog on, because we take issue with a lot of things Gen Y does. The fact that it appears that they spend most of their day in front of a video game, or texting, or on Facebook irks some of us to no end. When dinner time comes, they are so busy texting or watching a Youtube video that they communicate very llittle with the folks sitting next to them at the dinner table. We don't like the language they use in their social media posts. The fact that words are shortened to abbreviations and symbols in order to communicate in technology make us wonder if they even know how to spell a word the "regular" way. I could go on and on naming all the things older siblings, parents and grandparents find offensive about Gen Y.

But guess what? We are the ones at fault. We are who made Gen Y who they are!

Case in point: Who started the technology trend? Steve Jobs and Bill Gates. Guess which age group they fit into? They are both Baby Boomers. Jobs was and Gates still is forward, progressive thinkers. And that’s a good thing. But what about the value system? Where did Gen Y get the idea there were no absolutes?

They got it from their forebears (us) who SAY marriage is meant to be a commitment, but they see us divorcing left and right. Even couples who’ve been married 20, 30, 40,  and 50 years are splitting up “in search of happiness”. Some may think their divorce is just all about them, yet those who are looking on at them in admiration and for stability are shaken to the core. The divorcees just stripped them of an absolute. They see that the words we say about commitment don’t match our actions. So they cohabitate or have multiple relationships at once. Why get married only to get divorced one day? Marriage "used" to be an absolute.

The forbears of Gen Y say they should get their lives in order with God, but they see fewer of us attending church, or they see fewer of us making any kind of real sacrifices for what we say we believe. And the biggie: we insist that they come to church or get a relationship with God so they can have this “abundant life” of which we preach and teach. Yet, for the most part, we are not living that abundant life. They see older Christians who are besought with worry, depression, loneliness, bickering, unforgiveness, riddled with sickness and ready to punch somebody’s lights out at any moment. Is this the abundant life? No, but this is what they see, and when Gen Y sees this, the psychological response is, “who wants that kind of life?” They seek for “abundant life” on the movie star/reality show/singer/sports star scene and in cyber relationships.

There was a time that they may not have liked what we had to say as parents but they respected us. They looked to us for guidance. Where has the parent/child relationship gone? It's become so friendly that some of us are trying our utmost to talk, dress, look and act like them. Shouldn't that be the other way around? Interestingly, they will mature; but looking to us as examples, what will they mature into if we're trying to be like them?

In other words, it’s easy to speak of the foundation and value system, but sometimes we are hard pressed to put our money where our mouths are. Our lives do not live up to our words sometimes. For this, we need to repent - for ourselves and for them.

Tomorrow's blog - God willing - will provide an answer to my friend's question. But I warn you that it's not an answer that contains a quick fix or an easy remedy. Mindsets (strongholds) have to be defeated in the spirit realm before the results can be seen in the physical realm.

Jane is Founder and Facilitator at The Elizabeth Company, a small Christian media and publishing business. Check us out at 

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revsuz - 6 years ago

Wow! Good word here, my freind, and sooo true! Parents want to be friends with their kids, not disciplinarians. They don't want to age, so they hide in their daughter's jeans or their son's skate boards. Seeing the children in the stores scares me. They hit, spit at, and even curse their parents. The parent does nothing constructive about it. One reason why is the hidden cameras that would cause them to go to jail and have their children taken away by "big brother" watchdog. If my kids had done those things, they would have been dealt with on the spot.

I pray Jesus comes soon.

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About: Jane Ward has been involved in ministry for 30 years. Most recently she became director at a pregnancy resource center. Jane is an author, publisher, teacher, whose passion is to connect with young women in order to share Jesus Christ with them and empower them to the abundant life Christ has made available for them. "Abundant life starts within through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. It manifests itself outwardly through godly character."

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