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Sat, Apr 14 2012 - 08:58 AM





I had been trying to understand an area that has existed in my life and I could never achieve any success in finding where the problem was. In beginning this writing I was almost in tears within my inner man. I had done my best to try and convince my wife that she had a problem and she didn’t really understand what I was saying. A great deal of conflict can arise when one partner in a marriage tries to convict the other of problems she has no part in.

Have you ever tried to pray and convince the Lord that he is missing the whole problem here? LISTEN TO ME NOW --IT DOESN’T WORK!!!! You see the prophet Isaiah wrote He is high and lifted up.  I know what the rest of that scripture says, but let me put it put this way---He is looking down with an all seeing eye following all that goes on. He knows what’s happening before you even speak, that’s why the prophet wrote that with that all Seeing Eye He knows your problem before you call and answers while you are speaking.

I have heard some pray--”but God”--a form of rebellious submission for not getting things their way.

Some of the folk’s I am referring to counsel many walking through the same valley successfully and still can’t look in the mirror and see what God may be saying in their own lives.

If you really want to save your marriage a lot of pain, go find that closet, the one with a lot of dust that used to be used for prayer, and pray. Oh yeah clean it up first the Lord doesn’t like unclean places any more than you do. One of the reasons there is problems is that most of the resources you used to work with regularly are now dusty because they are unused.

Now become a lineman and reconnect that line into the throne room that at one time you keep hot with conversation between you and the Lord.

The primary ingredient in your home relationship is your vertical relationship with the Lord, unless that connection is good there will be no other lines that are working. The next thing is to make sure the parallel lines are connected between you and every member of your house.

Now look at your self in the mirror and begin inventory every thought you had about your life and home. An area that has brought down several homes of major ministries here in central Fla. Is when a Pastor tries to pastor his home as well as being a Father, husband and provider? Nine times out of ten one areas will fail when you try to put all these areas of responsibility in one basket.

Your wife needs a Pastor not a husband being a Pastor for her needs spiritually.  As a man if you don’t have a pastor in your life that is very foolish.

Suppose you and your wife have a wonderfully romantic evening of intimacy and she and you awake the next morning and she comes to you with a spiritually centered problem. You go take off the husband’s coat and put on the Pastor’s coat. Does she go to bed with a husband or a Pastor?

Your roles in the relationship must be defined and they must be consistently open to the Lord in prayer. She must be able to come to you on any issue and you must remember you are a husband not a minister in the home, you are simply a direction finder for her  and that may be pointing her to the Pastor. You will find the husband has many more depth issues to deal with in the home that you ever could as a Pastor.

The wife has a deep spiritual responsibility in the home because she is the overseer of every aspect for the husband and his welfare.


After going through all this I have had on many occasions an opportunity to assume a powerful role in our home and that is repentance to my wife from my heart. You see if you don’t have that place of repentance in the home then you need to examine your vertical relation with the Lord.

I always go back to that verse in 1Chronicles28:9--AMP.

9)And you, Solomon my son, know the God of your father [have personal knowledge of Him, be acquainted with, and understand Him; appreciate, heed, and cherish Him] and serve Him with a blameless heart and a willing mind. For the Lord searches all hearts and minds and understands all the wanderings of the thoughts. If you seek Him [inquiring for and of Him and requiring Him as your first and vital necessity] you will find Him; but [

a]if you forsake Him, He will cast you off forever!

In the 1st half of this verse in the KJV it would simply be expressed “KNOW THE GOD OF YOUR FATHER.’- This is the word ‘know” that is so wordily translated in the AMP. And it simply means to know with an intimacy, in the same intensity you have with your wife, You need to make sure there are no hidden areas in your life  that are not open to him. Can you understand what kind of relationship the Lord wants with you?

Men you are simply an ensample of the Lord in your home and understand that even though you are not a pastor but in some cases a bishop in service only to your home with the responsibility of keeping the house pointed toward the Lord.


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praizeop2 - 7 years ago

Excellent word, Jim. Good job! Blessings ~ Sarah