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Thu, Aug 13 2009 - 07:12 PM

Share Your Thoughts

I'd like your prayerful thoughts on something.

My finances are a mess right now.  My husband and I both work.  We are blessed with jobs that pay well and we have great benefits.  Even so, we are struggling.  We are behind all most everything--including both mortgages.  We have credit card debt, bank loans and oustanding taxes from 2007.  I haven't even submitted my taxes for 2008 yet.   I need to buy the curriculum we will use for Homeschool this year and my car needs repairs.  Bottom line, we just aren't really making it and our credit has been ruined in the last 2 years for the first time in both of our lives. We both have always been blessed with excellent credit and the ability to manage our debt despite the occasional bump in the road. 

I do the best I can but it is stressful.  I manage the money.  I hate to sit down to pay bills because I know there isn't enough.   Sometimes, I put if off for days.  I have to decide what to pay, who to call, how to swing this or that, how to make the groceries stretch etc. 

We are not tithing and I know that is wrong.  It is a sin.  It is stealing from God, but my husband will not allow it.  He says "God doesn't work that way.  God knows we don't have the money to tithe."  I disagree but I don't know how to handle it.  I got him to allow me to tithe for 3 months once about a year ago to prove that it wouldn't hurt us.  We argued about it.  He very reluctantly allowed me to do it (mainly to prove me wrong).  After the 3 months, he made me stop.  We were not better off but actually further behind.  I mention it from time to time but he just gets upset.  So, I have just backed off and have been praying about ever since.  I thank God for making my husband the spiritual leader of my family and for giving my husband a heart for giving.  I know the tithing didn't work because my husband wasn't giving with a loving heart.  He was doing it to satisfy me and in a sense to prove me wrong. 

So, I feel really torn.  Am I obeying my husband over God?  Should I tithe and just not mention it to my husband?--but that is decietful and I don't think God would approve.  Do I trust that God knows my heart and just keep praying and doing the best I can with the finances? 

I am praying and praying on this.  Praying for a financial miracle.  Praying that my husband will chose to tithe.  Praying for a way to make extra money.  Praying that I will find new ways to be creative and save money on groceries.  

I just don't know what to do.  My husband is a wonderful person and a good father and husband but he doesn't know Jesus in a personal way.  He believes in God but He isn't "faith filled".  He doesn't like me to talk about God in "practical" ways.  He doesn't think God gets involved in the day-to-day aspects of our lives--like money, job, college choices, career choices etc.  He sees God as too busy to deal with that kind of stuff.  He is missing out on so much by thinking that way!  Yet, he only gets angry if I try to talk about it.  I know that Satan has him fooled and a lot of his anger is really fear, but it is causing me much stress.  I trust God to change my husband and I believe he will one day become the spiritual leader of our family, but what should I do in the meantime? 

Please pray for me as I pray and search for answers on how God wants me to handle this situation.  Pray for my husband's salvation and a change in his mindset about God and giving .

If God lays something on your heart to share with me, please do so.  Any encouragement you can provide would be great.  Just knowing others will be praying for brings me some peace.  I know that God is bigger than all of this but I still have a stack of bills staring me in the face and not enough money to go around and I have to deal with that right now!

Jesus, I know that You are my Comforter and my Provider.  You are my Prince of Peace.  You are an ever present help in times of trouble.  You will never leave me nor forsake me.  Your desire is that I live my life and live it to the fullest.  You genuinely desire to bless me.  Show me the way, Lord.  Give me the day to day instruction that I need just to make it through this difficult time.  Give me insight, give me peace and give me hope.  Lord,  I especially need a way to buy the curriculum programs for my daughter's home school--that isn't an option.  Will you please provide me with what I need to get her things as quickly as possible so that she can begin her new school year?  Thank you for all of your many, many blessings.  Forgive me for all of my sins--especially those that helped to create the situation I am in.  Help me to receive your forgiveness and move forward.   Let me sense your presence in a very real and obvious way.

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About: I am a married, working mother with 2 children a daughter age 17 and a son age 14. I have a passion for writing and feel led to work with pre-teen girls. I blog mostly about my spiritual journey as I seek God's perfect will for my life.

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